Handling Wedding Planning Stress

Planning a wedding together? 🤭

Firstly, congratulations on finding your forever person; You made it out of this ghetto disguised as 'The dating world.' 😤

That being said, one of the most challenging things about weddings is the planning stage.

Wedding planning is exciting, but it’s also a crash course in communication, compromise, and how many tiny decisions two people can disagree on before one of them says, "I quit!"

One minute you're so in sync with the color(s) of the day; next minute you're arguing over hiring a live band or a DJ. 😂

The sudden realization of the clash in interest can make one question if they made the right choice of partner.

If this resonates, don't worry, you're not alone.

Here’s how to survive the wedding planning stage as a team and even enjoy the ride.

1. Lean into your individual strength:

You both do not need to be equally good or be interested in every part of the process.

One of you might be a natural organizer who loves spreadsheets and timelines, while the other thrives on creative decisions like music and food/entertainment.

Trying to split every task down the middle can easily lead to frustration, especially when it has nothing to do with what each person does best. Instead, divide responsibilities in a way that feels natural and balanced. Trust each other to take the lead where you shine, and support each other where you don’t.

It’s not about doing everything together; it’s about building something together, using the strengths you already bring to the table.

2. The big stuff first:

Before you pick napkin colors or argue about the DJ, take a moment to answer these two questions:

What kind of experience do we want this to be?

What matters to us, not our parents, not Instagram, not society?

This should help bring back your focus to the most important things.

Once answered,

Set the tone you both want.

Resist the urge to stress over things you don’t value.

Make decisions faster by aligning on your “why.”

Once you're on the same page about the vibe, the smaller stuff gets way easier.

3. Prioritize Communication :

Wedding planning brings up a LOT: money, family dynamics, expectations, perfectionism, etc., so it’s totally normal to hit rough patches. The trick is how you handle them.

Avoid passive-aggressive comments, no keeping score, and no assuming the other person can read your mind. Say what you actually need.

If something’s bugging you, bring it up with kindness, not while you're angry in the middle of a conversation with a difficult vendor.

You’re planning a day about love and partnership, so try to practice both in how you talk to each other. Because how you plan together now is a preview of how you’ll face issues later.

4. The Budget Conversation:

Money is one of the biggest stressors in wedding planning. It's best you're real with each other early on. Who’s contributing what? What’s the priority? Where are you okay with cutting corners?

Having the money talk shouldn't be a buzzkill; it's only a reality check that helps you realign your priorities. It's a huge determinant of whether you’re going all-out or keeping it intimate. Remember, a beautiful wedding doesn’t have to be expensive.

5. Protect the Romance:

In the middle of this beautiful chaos, it’s surprisingly easy to forget the whole point of this thing: you love each other.

Keeping the spark alive should be a priority in times like this.

Go on dates where wedding talk is off-limits. Celebrate the little milestones; picking the rings, agreeing on vendors, etc.

It’s so easy to let your relationship turn into a business partnership during this season, but the wedding is just one day.

Your connection is what lasts. So be intentional about nurturing it. At the end of all this, you don’t just want a beautiful wedding, you want to still love each other when it’s over.

6. Build Your Registry Together:

Curating your wishlist together is one of the few wedding planning tasks that’s actually fun. You get to dream a little about the home you’re building, the things you’ll use every day, and the parts of your future you’re excited about.

It's the perfect bonding activity to do together. Make it a date night.

Add a few practical things, a few splurges, and things that make perfect sense to just you two.

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